Sonja is on a bit of a high from planning a very successful birthday bash for Ramona, the week before. The good times keep rolling as she joins her dear friend for a very elegant birthday luncheon. She does, however, address brewing friction with another castnate:
“Ramona’s birthday lunch was a wonderful event. I’m so glad I was able to help her to feel so comfortable beginning her birthday week. I completely understand her celebrating her birthday for a whole week! She needs all her close friends around her to support her now. I wouldn’t have been so nice to Heather at that event, though, if I had known that she’d been talking badly about my business behind my back.”
Honestly? What’s new about this? Sadly, I can’t remember Heather saying anything good about Sonja behind her back.
“What was with Heather’s BFF Carole knocking my consultations with a psychopharmacologist? Carole isn’t a doctor, and I don’t know why she thinks that she knows what’s in the best medical interest for me. I’m currently seeing a neurologist and an endocrinologist in conjunction with the psychopharmacologist–they are all working together to regulate my hormones and my vitamins, and I think that I would know what’s in my best interest. The psychopharamacologist will decide if I need to take any prescriptions, and yes, they do know a lot about vitamins, as they should, and how they interact with medicines. Then I will decide if I want to take a prescription. This is another example of one of the women just being critical and starting rumors. If Carole is really concerned about my health and what my psychopharmacologist does, she should come to me instead of talking about me to everyone in the world in pure speculation.”
I am actually surprised by Carole’s statements, given her work as a journalist and the pride she takes in considering herself to be an intellectual. There is actually a field called “Herbal Psychopharmacology.” You can research papers on the field at PubMed.
The TH interviews are conducted after the season has finished, I believe, which would have given Carole a chance to review the literature and find that out. Carole’s treatment of Sonja is consistent with the mean girl group mantra that Sonja is 1 – delusional, 2 – a liar, 3 – crazy. The problem is that they have been consistently wrong about her and never own up to it.
“I’m not surprised, too, that Bethenny was not receptive to me telling her that I am seeing my friend Robin Cofar, who is a Swami Priest and Yogi. In Atlantic City, Bethenny told me that she thought that I needed to see someone and start talking about the things that are going on in my life. Robin and I are doing introspective work, so I thought that Bethenny would want to know that I was taking her advise and trying to slow things down a little bit as she suggested.”
I agree with Bethenny and don’t know what the Swami’s credentials are, but if this is how Sonja gets to the heart of her issues and it helps her solve her problems, so be it.
“Instead of being supportive, Bethenny just attacked me! Bethenny has stepped back into this group of girls with a preconceived notion of where I am at. I feel she isn’t taking the time to get to know the real facts in this particular moment. Bethenny wants me to talk to a shrink, because that’s what has worked for her. It’s great that talking to a therapist works for her, but that’s not how I operate. Having said that, my psychopharmacologist has said he may suggest a therapist for me. Bethenny and I are very different people, so we are going to go about getting centered in different ways. I wish that she would respect that I need to follow my own path instead of her trying to force her life experiences onto me. Everyone is an individual and has their own story. The sooner we all realize this, the happier we will be. At least I feel she really cares, and she’s damn funny.”
I think she is as wrong in her assessment of Bethenny as Carole, Heather, and Kristen are in their assessment of her. I do think it’s interesting, and honest, that she shares that her psychopharmacologist may suggest someone for her. It’s never hurts to have more help. I wish The Lady Morgan well in moving forward.
“I’m not surprised that Bethenny is being harsh with me, because she is very hard on herself. I don’t like when Bethenny says that her talk show and marriage were both failures. I don’t like to look at any life experience as failures. Both the talk show and her marriage brought her to where she is today, and Bethenny needs to focus more on moving forward instead of thinking about her past experiences.”
This is what makes Sonja such a unique person. She more than makes up for the torture of sitting through the wasted airtime focused on the three women who have mocked and maligned her! Sonja’s delivery may be hard to handle, but she’s the genuine article. If you read the full blog, you’ll also note that she has kind words for Luann’s daughter, Victoria, and wishes Bethenny well in dealing with her unresolved childhood issues. As a divorced mom sharing custody, she also understands that Bryn is Bethenny’s priority, not the other wives:
“There’s nothing more important than being a mom, so the other women should respect that Bryn is Bethenny’s priority. Who needs a ladies luncheon when you can spend quality time with your daughter!”
“I don’t know why I wasn’t invited to the boxing match! I love boxing (and wrestling), and when you throw in those tasty looking sandwiches and some beers, who couldn’t have a great time! I don’t know why Carole wouldn’t have invited me, because I know that I always invite her to every group event I do. I’ve noticed that Carole has become more dismissive of me, instead of taking the time to really hear what I’m saying. This makes me sad, because I thought that Carole understood that I am always one to support artists, and I would think that she would support me as I have supported her. In fact, she was the first person to say I am an artist and that I should take my caburlesque Off Broadway. I thought she enjoyed my sing song skits that I write. She said I was hilarious.”
It is too bad she wasn’t invited. I would have loved watching her flirt with the boxers! I think it is frequently the case Carole and her buddies are all too dismissive of Sonja. She nails the attitude when she writes:
“I don’t know why Carole was so upset when Luann said that her boyfriend is “Sonja young.” Is it really so bad to be me Carole?! I also can’t believe Ramona said that my boyfriends are just toys. The men who I date may be young, but they are established independent men who don’t need me to support them. I’m just happy that Carole has a man right now. I’m not trying to poke holes in her relationship like all of the other women are trying to do to mine.”
PREACH IT, sister. Sonja is at least consistent in respecting the value of other people’s relationships, even new housewife, Dorinda Medley:
“You can always count on Ramona to bring a little levity to a situation! That comment about Dorinda being pounded to stay thin was hilarious! Maybe I need to stop working out and just start having more sex! But I don’t know why Ramona tried to belittle Dorinda’s relationship with John. Why can’t these women just be happy for each other?! They all need to take a step back, stop meddling in other people’s lives, and just worry about their own problems while being supportive of their friends. Dorinda is happy. John has been there for her in dark moments.”
I am no fan of John’s, but for now, as a fan of the show, I’m going to wait to see if he delivers something deeper. Dorinda seems to have a great head on her shoulders. I hope she’s chosen wisely – not that it affects me in the long run.
Good luck, Sonja!
I’m an exasperated soap fan who keeps hanging on – waiting for the daytime I once loved to return to its former glory! Hey, it doesn’t hurt to have a dream. I learned to love soaps thanks to my wonderful mother and grandmother. I’ll always have fond memories of daytime, most especially of ‘Another World’, my first stoap love. The ever great, but sadly defunct, daytime shows like Ryan’s Hope, Search for Tomorrow, The Doctors, Loving, and many others keep a special place in my heart, as well.