Book Review: “Lies of a Real Housewife” By Angela Stanton — Chapters 3, 4, 5 Recap

Posted on Jul 1 2014 - 12:19pm by Norrth Cafe

Angela Stanton

Keep in mind that Phaedra Parks, Esq. has denied all allegations made by Ms. Angela Stanton. This review does not contradict Parks’ denial of involvement.  It is merely a review of Angela Stanton’s account of their friendship and a review of her allegations, soon to be addressed in a court of law.

[READ] Phaedra Parks Ordered To Give Deposition In Lawsuit Against Angela Stanton 

I have to begin this review with an old school musical salute to Ms. Stanton. The Delfonics, “Didn’t I Blow Your Mind This Time?”… Yes, yes you did, Ms. Stanton, you blew my mind, and after the musical interlude, friends, I’m about to blow yours.


I think we’ve all heard that Ms. Stanton has alleged that Esq. Parks ran a criminal enterprise, specifically she alleges that Parks helped hide the fraud activities for which she and Apollo Nida were convicted. My assumption was that the allegation was purely about the car theft and stolen checks. Stanton’s allegations are so much bigger than that. SO.MUCH.BIGGER.  In essence? Stanton claims that she became a booster (thief), of sorts, on Parks’ behalf, to the point of being given a “shopping list” of what to get and where and when to get it. If her claims are true, some of ya’ll out there, and you know who you are, might not have done yourselves any favors if you took back or exchanged your “Gifts by Phaedra” (Bravo Snark). Stanton also alleges that Parks hooked her up with other big time grifters around that time – people who were well known in the ATL community and who also appeared to be upstanding citizens.

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Yes, she tells tales and names names. You’ll have to buy the book to find out who they are. WOW is all I’ll say. We also find out that Stanton is introduced as one of Parks’ best workers, the indication being there were a number of “workers” who are under Parks’ care. Several of you, either in the comments from the “Preface, Chapters 1 and 2”, or in email, said that Parks seemed as if she was “grooming” Stanton to work for her. These chapters strengthen the sentiment. As Stanton recounts events related to her fourth pregnancy, she also recounts what she says was Parks’ “family planning” advice to her. As you read the book for yourselves, I’ll leave it to you to determine what causes Parks’ to allegedly advise Stanton in the manner Stanton claims. The advice goes far beyond “visit a physician.”

As I read further, I begin to think differently about criminality. This may be an individual case, but I can see that it’s not really the lure of money that lands some people into “making a fast buck.” I’m  beginning to feel as  if it’s a lack of trusted connections with others that gets you there, those who can pull you back – that may be the difference between those whose situations are desperate and engage in crime to “save” themselves and those who are desperate and don’t. Once you are there, it’s the foolishly trusted connections you make with your partners in crime, and the increased need for money to survive, that keeps you there.  I see that in Stanton.  She met a lot of people who were of questionable character, who were willing to use a teenage girl, then a woman in her early 20’s, to get what they wanted rather than pay for her to go to school, or help her get a legitimate job. She was never going to get out of that lifestyle any other way than prison or via death, and fortunately for her it was the former, not the latter.

Stanton, by her own claims, is a highly successful at what she did, but was largely unpaid (you read that right, she says she was never paid for those job).  Her “booster” work included learning how to write business checks – fake checks written on real accounts. She explains how she was able to get away with it and where she got the checks from. This could have easily happened in a time when security was so lax, and well before Homeland Security – so keep that in mind as you read what she was able to get away with. It’s mind-blowing.  She’d forgone payment because she trusted she had a “high-powered” attorney who was on an unpaid retainer.  At her age, and given her background, I can understand that Stanton didn’t know the difference between an entertainment attorney and a criminal defense attorney.

By the time Apollo (a man she describes as “intelligent’)  is introduced, the jobs get bigger. I fully understand the secret service involvement if this is accurate. Stanton is even crossing state lines with prepared documents, by her account to pull off some of the ring’s bigger jobs.  The bigger jobs are the ones for which she and Apollo were later arrested; they were jobs for which she was paid a small fee in comparison to the large sums they stole.  We learn the ins and outs of the operation from Stanton’s perspective.  Who called for the bank accounts to be set up?  How does crossing state lines for other documents figure into all of this?  Who gives her the documents she needs that will eventually land her in prison?  As she paints this picture, I have a hard time believing a street kid, undereducated, poor, and without enough resources to survive was able to figure out this plan.

[READ] Update — Angela Stanton Says The Secret Service Contacted Her About Phaedra and Apollo

That court ordered deposition is going to be something special if Stanton’s attorneys ask about the account Stanton is weaving in this portion of the book. I am officially worried about Parks at this moment – and if you’ve read anything I’ve ever written about RHOA, you know that’s a shocker.

I begin to understand why Stanton is as confident as she is in her story, but she then describes who is involved, what they know and the extra insurance she provides for herself, unknown to Parks and Nida. She also provides a very different account of their relationship than the one we’ve been told through the show. Stanton’s version paints Nida as being very similar to her, a “worker” before he becomes something more to Parks – and the picture she paints is not pretty.  It is, however, more consistent with fans’ observations about the relationship between the two on the show!  Stanton also reveals some medical information about Nida you’ll have to read for yourself. Two words: Oh.Dear. The tidbits she posts in this section makes the price of purchase worth it. It give so much context, in my opinion, to what we’ve seen onscreen that I would have paid twice the price for it.

She continues showing us connections she made with Parks, even after an initial arrest, something that will be hard for Parks to explain, in my opinion. We are introduced to “E” another worker and find out how the car business comes about. NO WAY, folks, I’m sorry.  After reading the details, there is NO WAY you can convince me Stanton or Nida thought up this elaborate plan. We also learn about one of the most dangerous relationships she’s been in, even beyond the alleged mess with Parks. The term “Head Doctor” comes up in these chapters as Stanton tells us where the term originates – from her account. Did Nene Leakes know that term because of the rumors she heard about in their little home town or did it come from Stanton’s book? I’m now curious!  If I remember correctly, Nene claimed it was a name given to Phaedra “back home.” If my memory is faulty, please correct me! Stanton seems to suggest that it was a name Phaedra was given during their friendship. WOW, if that’s true, the ATL housewives are shading each other in ways we don’t even know about, as an audience.

[READ] Phaedra Parks Exposed As A “Super Freak”

We find out how the ring is busted, and as with Apollo’s last arrest, we find that they were all being watched for months before that. We also learn how it came to be that Stanton gives birth to her last child, while handcuffed in a prison hospital bed. We learn who was there for her when she was caught, and who wasn’t.  I literally got chills reading this all went down. Stanton walks a fine line between accepting responsibility and laying blame. It’s an interesting well-balanced dance.

Join us Thursday, July 3, for Chapters 6 – 8 and finally on Sunday, July 6 for the end of this saga. I hope you’re reading along with us and prepared for the discussion, people. We’re going in for the hair of the dog.

Click here to purchase Lies of a Real Housewife: Tell the Truth and Shame the Devil 
RELATED: Book Review: “Lies of a Real Housewife” Chapters 1 & 2 Recap & Questions 


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I’m an exasperated soap fan who keeps hanging on – waiting for the daytime I once loved to return to its former glory! Hey, it doesn’t hurt to have a dream. I learned to love soaps thanks to my wonderful mother and grandmother. I’ll always have fond memories of daytime, most especially of ‘Another World’, my first stoap love. The ever great, but sadly defunct, daytime shows like Ryan’s Hope, Search for Tomorrow, The Doctors, Loving, and many others keep a special place in my heart, as well. ♦ Norrth Cafe's BlogTwitterFacebook

  • Tre’s Pic’s aren’t Angelic

    Well my book is on the way. I’m sure that it will be a read it in a day excursion.
    I really like the way you present this info. Your first review is what convinced me that I needed to read this book. The review today just makes my mouth salivate even more!

    • SAMRA1116

      That last sentence includes me. What disease does Apollo have???
      I said from day one, where’s the love and chemistry.
      I might have to break down and buy the book. LOL

      • Norrth

        No disease, let’s just say that if he’s compelled by a court to prove that her physical description of him is wrong, he won’t like it.

        • Say what now????

          • SAMRA1116

            What does that mean??? Now I’m interested in that.

          • Apollo has a certain body feature that Phaedra told Angela about and Angela wrote about this special body part (or lack thereof) in her book. To help lend credibility to her case, Angela’s attorney’s could make Apollo show said body part.

          • SAMRA1116

            Dr you writing like an attorney now.
            Oh well either his pp is small or he has one ball. LOL
            Fhedra and Apollo are two twisted people
            Apollo is too hot headed to be in control

        • twifan2

          Oh My Gosh! IF he is ‘compelled’ by a court to prove Angela wrong & he can’t… MORE credibility to Angela!

    • Norrth

      I can’t wait to get your take on it. What I like most is that Stanton doesn’t cry (much) about victimization. She admits what she did, and even talks about how good she was of how proud of her skills she was — at the time. It’s only in hindsight that she can see what really happened. I believe her that Apollo called her and tried to stop the book from coming out. I would!!!! I believe the couple wrote her off as a “dumb baby mama” and didn’t expect her to tell the story she’s telling. If she had a good editor to pull her story together more? I think Phaedra and Apollo would have to go on the run, real or not. Some of the artists Phaedra represented that Stanton talks about I don’t know but I’m sure they’re not happy to read what she said about them.

  • SAMRA1116

    North you are weaving a web—-your style is very interesting, ugh you’re making me, want to break my rule and buy the book. You good.
    Love old school jams—I thought about “go on and cry my son” by Bloodstone.

    • Norrth

      I’m glad you enjoyed it. I have to say that now that I’ve read this book, I can understand why Parks refused the deposition in a case she brought – at least I suspect that if half of this stuff is true it’s the reason why she refused. I wouldn’t want to go on record answering for any of it.

      • twifan2

        Looks like Phaedra is going to be sorry she ever filed that lawsuit against Angela.
        Phae just should have left it alone. :/

        • Norrth

          Yup, it didn’t look like Stanton was getting much notice, until that lawsuit. I ignored Stanton’s book, only hearing a few comments about it. Wish I’d read it sooner.

  • Oh my Lord!!! The truth always comes to light. What you do in the dark will be exposed and I think that’s what we’re seeing now.

    Norrth your recap is intriguing and has me captivated! Just when I thought I knew all the claims against Phaedra, now she ran a boosting ring. Damn! So basically Phae was a criminal that decided to become an attorney as an after thought.

    • Marsbars09

      Or Fake was a good girl gone bad.
      Hi Doc!

      • True—LOL!!!! Hi Marsie *waving*

  • Basically Phae and Apollo’s marriage was a business arrangement which he confirmed in a recent interview. Apollo made statements like “I’ve grown to love her” and compared his marriage to a “brand.”

    • twifan2

      I always had a feeling that that ‘marriage’ was not really a marriage.
      Feel sad for the boys. 🙁

    • Norrth

      What a really strange choice of words. I always assumed he said because he married her when she became pregnant. Whole new meaning now that you mention that interview. WHOA!

    • primrose

      She married him so he couldn’t testify against her and also to keep him under her thumb. What I don’t understand is this. Phaedra got away blamelessly from this huge operation that resulted in people doing time and instead of being grateful that she was not implicated and living her life quietly, she does a reality show. Seems delusional to me.

      • pasteeler

        Sociopaths blame other people for what they do, and is very good at hiding their true self. This is why Phaedra brazenly signed up to be on tv. She’s convinced that she can fool, lie and deceive anyone.

  • Marsbars09

    If the book is elaborate and detailed as Norrth described, I too would have a hard time not believing what Angela says.
    I hope Fake has as much legal ammo as necessary when she has to give her depo.

  • Babson_Chick

    Very interesting – thanks for the great recap. Happy & safe 4th of July to all of you. Am off early in the am.

  • RonnieIsBack

    ooh wee this is some amazing tea!!! We all know come deposition time Shady Phae will try to involke her 5th Amendment rights….I know Ms. Stanton has hella lawyers and they know how to ask to get around that chit….Even if Shady Fhae doesn’t wind up in the pokey (SHE SHOULD BE BURIED BENEATH THE JAILHOUSE) her rep is gone…#GoodRiddance.

  • RonnieIsBack

    Love your disclaimer know Shady Phae is reading this LOLOL…
    That song keeps me thinking of “Jackie Brown”..remember….heheheh

    • Norrth


  • pasteeler

    Ok, I just ordered Angela’s book on Amazon. It’s not too expensive around $11 shipping and and tax was about $5. I’m buying the book because I want to get more details on the people named in the plot.

    I like the author’s viewpoint of the book. There are many reasons why people turn to crime other than greed. Unfortunately, they stay because they get greedy, but it’s not the deciding factor.