Real Housewives of New York Recap: ‘Unforgivable Debt’ [Episode 8]

Posted on Apr 30 2014 - 3:59am by Norrth Cafe


Sonja is hosting an afternoon luncheon for Aviva and Ramona at her “borrowed” S. Hampton home. We know it is borrowed because Bravo puts that caption up every time it is featured, as opposed to “Sonja’s Friend’s House.” Aviva wants to know if the bartender is single and points out that Sonja has great legs, not exactly her thing – she points out about herself. I’m a fan of dark humor so I get it. I also like the dynamic between the three women so it is disappointing when Ramona says she is not doing well due to the heat and an early morning run. Sonja feels something is wrong while Aviva tries to convince her that Ramona loves her and all is fine. I think Sonja should follow her instincts since we see, in what appears to be the same day, Ramona, Countess Lu and Carole touring a designer show house.

Lu and Carole reflect on the “Ramona-ness” (Lu’s term) they endure when Ramona actually peels the peel-and-stick wallpaper, which probably costs as much as my family’s annual clothing budget, simply because she wants to test it – thinking it would look great in Avery’s dorm. Ramona stands in the doorway as Lu and Carole marvel at the melamine plates – which Lu remarks are light enough to fly as frisbees…so Ramona flies one into the pool and it sinks. You just can’t make this stuff up! In her TH Carole refers to it as a designer show house not a frat house.



We get to the heart of the gathering. The women begin to discuss Sonja’s financial issues. Ramona, who in a TH states that she doesn’t enjoy being around a crabby Sonja, spills what she knows – including that Sonja (at that time) was being required to sell her home to pay her debts. Lu is surprised that Ramona is spilling. Are we not surprised that she is surprised? Sonja going broke must be a nightmare, for Ramona, who acts as if Sonja’s money woes are communicable.

Kristen, Heather and their families spend a nice afternoon together. They are joined by Carole and I begin to cringe thinking there will be more Aviva conversation but the focus is Sonja’s debt and the wives’ perceived betrayal of Sonja by Ramona. Ms. Ramona has done herself no favors by focusing so publicly on Sonja’s problems rather than her own.



After a flash of the Naked Cowboy’s happy backside, we see that Kristen is back in the city. Work is slow so Kristen, who has been modeling since roughly age 16, is looking for agency that wills take on someone her age – and since she looks at least 10 years younger, it’s shocking to learn that she has been at it for 25 years. I think the fact that Josh treats her like a 20-something kid makes her seem younger as well. She gets a douchey response about having good mileage on her but NYC agencies are trending younger and she should consider secondary markets (Chicago, Milwaukee, Atlanta). Since she can’t model, wants no more children, or to go back to school, acting seems to be the next step (maybe).

Next we see “Veevs” and Lu together at a wine tasting in the Hamptons. They taste a wine flavored with grapefruit that Lu says is too tart for her and that Aviva says is too acidic – like urine. The server is not amused. Lu is not horrified. I have to wonder if Aviva says it for maximum shock value since I hardly think it is an informed comparison. Ramona and Sonja join them. Lu lets the house sale slip and Sonja lets them know that she is not giving up. So Lu spends her TH knocking the toaster oven and home goods lines that have not come to fruition while Ramona rolls her eyes as Sonja explains the new plans. Aviva recommends a sex toy line (which I think would suit Sonja more than ATL’s Kandi, but there is room for both). As they take things outside things turn dark and Lu is told that she’s seen as too neutral. She feels she’s being attacked and calls Sonja a bitch.



Sonja does, sadly, seem to be all over the place and speaks about a yellow and white diamond collection, a clothing line, kitchen accessories, and it’s hard to watch because Sonja has been a ray of light on this show and she seems so lost. You stay wealthy by hanging on to your money but it is hard for me to believe that her friends haven’t rallied and helped her in some way – launch her line, as Heather tried to do several seasons ago – tanked by outside interference. Who will send the shark attorneys to help her? She’s getting lots of criticism, but very little real support.

Heather and Carole are in the city eating pizza & drinking beer and tequila while talking about Heather’s battle with the Spanx brand (haven’t followed it but I gotta say that on the face of it I’m #TeamHeather). Carole admits she edits people’s wikipedia pages when she’s bored. They are laughing and having a good time when Carole is asked to furbaby sit by her neighbor, who joins them for shot and a discussion about her desire for a facelift….ok!

Back in the city we see Ramona at Sonja’s whose laundry hangs in the shower as if washed by hand and whose toilets are being cleaned by her own hands -no maid service or care while away. Ramona wants to give her a wake up call. She wants Sonja to be realistic and find a nice place she can go to if things go south. Sonja feels that Ramona is not being sisterly but coming from a place of fear – the angels are on her side and she is off to light an “abundance candle.”



Daddy Harry visits son Harrison for fajita night before he goes away to co-ed sleepaway camp. Aviva’s younger children don’t like “daddy Harry” because he tickles them when he sees them (though they laugh uncontrollably, later, when he does it). This family has it right. The adults get along and the kids are loved and cared for by everyone. It may please you to know that mild-mannered Reid is the person who crosses the line. Despite the fact that Aviva says anything goes in her house, neither she nor Harry are amused when Reid warns against sneaking off to the girls bunks to play at night and Harrison thinks it sounds ideal.



In the rest of the episode we see:

  • Sonja stood up by boy toy Ben.
  • Carole pranks Lu, Kristen, and Heather with a fake engagement announcement and fake ring.
  • Carole wants to renovate her apartment. She wants to turn her kitchen into an office since she never uses it other than to toast bread or English muffins.


During a spa visit:

  • Ramona flips on Sonja and tells her Ben is too young. She then admits she called a friend of Ben’s mother. She strangely calls the relationship between Sonja and Ben incestuous.
  • Ramona flips on Kristen who says Ramona is a meddler. Ramona responds by slut-shaming Sonja and says she thinks between her legs instead of with her head. When Kristen calls her jealous, Ramona throws her drink on her but later calls Kristen a bitch for splashing water on her fresh blowout.



Watching Sonja’s life fall apart is not fun. Watching Ramona make things harder for her and take what happiness she has is even less fun. True to form, Ramona tries to make it all Kristen’s fault. Sonja has the best line of the night: Ramona threw pinot on Kristen and took penis away from her. Kristen comes in second telling us that she teaches her kids not to hit or throw and that Ramona must have missed that lesson 65 years ago . Ouch!

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If you think this episode was bad, the previews tell us things get worse.



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I’m an exasperated soap fan who keeps hanging on – waiting for the daytime I once loved to return to its former glory! Hey, it doesn’t hurt to have a dream. I learned to love soaps thanks to my wonderful mother and grandmother. I’ll always have fond memories of daytime, most especially of ‘Another World’, my first stoap love. The ever great, but sadly defunct, daytime shows like Ryan’s Hope, Search for Tomorrow, The Doctors, Loving, and many others keep a special place in my heart, as well. ♦ Norrth Cafe's BlogTwitterFacebook

  • RonnieIsBack

    those NY bishes bring it!!!!
    So sad when Sonja was stood up and then called another “intern” to come sit with her…
    So Grey Gardens….Miss Havasham…

    • yeah I felt really bad for her and a little embarrassed too.

      • Bryan

        Oh please you three Poor Dirty House nothing!!! if Dirty House Morgan was as carefree and as fabulous as she thinks she is she would have called Harry and said, ” meet me a home I have a itch that needs to be scratched” and flounced out of that restaurant, instead of sitting there sulking over being stood up by some kid…. stupid women, stupid choices!!!

        She’s as bad as the 41 year old fat ass on Judge Judy, that was whining about being knocked up by a 20 year old…

        • bwahahaha!!! you are a mess for this one, Bryan!!!!!

          Bravo is ratcheting up the Crazy Sonja with the lingering shot of the clothes drying rack in the shower. I really feel bad for her. Sonja needs an abundance of things in her life to distract her from the fact that she has nothing. No toaster oven no cookbook, no lingerie line, no caburlesque, no department stores. Watching Aviva, LuAnn and Ramona try to tell Sonja that they don’t know what she’s talking about, that they’ve never heard these plans before, was sad. Has Sonja made all of these jobs up? Are we going to see her take a meeting with a department store?

          • Bryan

            After awhile someone like Dirty House Morgan who drones on and on about this and that you eventually tune them out, because its all lip service, of course she made all of these things up no one is actually approaching her. She needs to get her finances in order move out of that crumbling dump and start over, ONE thing at a time

            Can you imagine what a joke her “SonJa in the city catering nonsense must be???” too much cheap booze , crackers and Wispride chese

          • “Wispride cheese” <— ahahaha!!!! she can't be serious with that catering nonsense.

    • Sara

      When Sonja was at the table, I heard a little Phaedra angel on my shoulder say, “Help her Jesus.”

  • RonnieIsBack

    Great recap btw. I love how yall get in there, tell the juice and keep us fully informed without all the bias made-up chit like other blogs…

    • Morning Ronnie!

      I agree, Norrthe does a great job!

      • RonnieIsBack

        Good Mortink Doc!!!!!!!

      • Bryan

        its does its job but that’s about it

        • Oh lawd….here we go (warning: I am not responsible for any of my comment for the next 6 days)…..speak on it….elaborate??

    • Bryan

      This was dull compared to the RT reviews

      • Subjective personal opinions all round. Cheers!

        • Bryan

          Yeah it was fine did the job, I just prefer my recaps with a good amount of snark , and I like them to make me laugh out loud, which I often get from say Mary’s write up’s. When it comes to these show’s I don’t need them to be unbiased I like to know exactly what the reviwer as a viewer is feeling and thinking about the episode, I don’t need it to be a fair recap, just funny and amusing and snark filled

          • Gotcha! They are both incredible writers with different styles. Some viewers “hate” overly biased snarky recaps….some love it. Variety makes the world go round.

          • Bryan

            That it does!

  • RonnieIsBack

    And what the hell is with the single roller in the front of the forehead? Their hair is limp and lifeless..

  • SAMRA1116

    Poor Sonja is so desperate she can’t choose where to start. Romona need to STFU Sonja is grown and so is her date. Romona is projecting her feeling towards Sonja instead of Mario, with his roving eyes. Thank for the great recap.

  • Dani-K

    I really like Sonja and don’t want to see her fall apart this season. She was very frazzled at the wine tasting with all of her projects and getting mad that no one remembered the yellow and white diamonds. Sonja – pick one thing for now – and do it well. Then go on to the next one.
    I hope during Carole’s remodeling she adds the other side of the staircase.

    • Sara

      Sonja reminds me of a character from a bad gothic novel. She’s charming, but ditzy. Reality rarely intrudes on her troubled life. Sonja really belongs in California rather than NYC.

      • Dani-K

        When you first suggested that Sonja belongs on OC, I didn’t agree. But the more I thought about it, the more I think you are onto something. Perhaps Sonja and Heather could swap places.

  • Sara

    I just find it hard to feel bad for Sonja. I know she’s basically harmless (except to herself) but she just rings phony to me with all her name dropping and such. She must have married that rich old man for his money and status and now can’t figure out what to do with herself. Aviva was right when she said “Sonja is a legend in her own mind,” last season.

  • WestCoastFeed

    Super recap, North, thanks.

    Poor Sonja.

    Now, for the important questions. Who has melamine plates in this day and age? I threw mine away 50 years ago.

    And where did Carole find that ugly couch? Carole, if you are going to redo your apartment, start with the couch. The Goodwill will take it.

    • BohoBougie

      That couch belonged to her late husband’s mother, Princess Lee Radziwill, sister of Jackie Kennedy Onassis. It has been photographed for publications many times over the years as it is a designer custom-made piece.